It has been more than 6 years that I have been playing cricket. And it has been about 3 years since I've set my goal to be a cricketer.
Today I went for a cricket match along with my big brother. But I couldn’t play well. I couldn’t set myself in the field. And hence, the team lost.
After the game, we returned home. I got fresh and took my lunch. Soon after completing my meal I laid myself on the sofa. Then my brother said something.
"So this is how you want to be a cricketer, right? Such a poor game you have man", he laughed.
I got confused.
"Yeah, I couldn’t play well. But actually that’s not my game bro. You have not seen my talent. You have not seen me being set in the field", I replied.
"Oh, stop making nonsense excuse. I know something about this game too. I have seen players making triple century in a game, and you didn’t even score 30 runs", he laughed again.
"Oh yeah, sounds like you know much better than me. Do they make triple centuries in every game?" I replied.
"Umm, I don’t know that", he continued "but all I came to know is you don’t have any talent. Ok how many fucking sixes you scored today? Huh?"
That question banged me. It made my mind out of control and made me very angry. It felt like that question woke me up. I came to know he was trying to dominate me. He was trying to make fun of me. And I also knew what I had to do.
I smiled and asked," Ok, then what's your dream?"
I was very eager to hear his answer.
"Pilot", he replied in a very proud voice.
"Oh in that case, how many fucking planes you have flied?" I asked
He knew what I was trying to say. His face became pale. He was totally red. He turned to be speechless. I could easily read his face. He stood up and moved to the other room.
So, never try to dominate others. If you can't encourage them then just don’t make them lose their confidence. It really makes them feel bad. Put yourself in that place and think once. Is that a bad question? Will it hurt the other guy? If the answer comes yes, then just keep it upon yourself.
Everyday isn’t a good day. The same player may score 400 runs in the 1st game and may get duck out in the other. The same player may score 6 goals in the 1st game and may end up being goalless in the other. The same student may top the 1st exam and may get failed in the other.
"Sorry!", he opened the door and tried to apologize. I could see the word sorry in his eyes. "My intension was not to make you feel bad. I really want to make up for that."
I had understood!
"That's ok", I smiled.